Like the way we use punctuation in language, music is separated, and structured, by these important, well-placed rests. Rests are critically important and intelligently placed by the composer for the music to make sense. But even during the rests, the song is not over … it’s just a time to wait …
One area that often tripped us up in marriage was expectations. These formed many of our myths about marriage. But expectations are often unrealistic, and it’s been said “an expectation is a resentment waiting to happen”.
If Valentine’s Day has become your one big shot to inject a little intimacy into your relationship, try something different. Are you willing to go beyond flowers, dinner and chocolate for Valentine’s Day? How about giving a different gift? The gift of intimacy.
All couples face challenges. In their book, “In Quest of the Mythical Mate”, the authors describe the stages of marriage in a way that was very helpful for us.
I don’t know if I was in denial, or just oblivious to it, but it was an “Aha” moment when I began to understand the impact of my past on my present relationships.